The only time you will likely read anything positive about a long-term-care home, or as it is more often called, a nursing home, is in the obits. Every day you’ll see grieving friends and relatives thank a nursing home for caring for their loved one. Many ask that donations be made to the home’s activity fund or the like. It is clear, reading these, that the experience was positive.
Problem is, most of us don’t read, let alone get our news, from the obituaries.
For most people, the only time a long-term-care home catches our attention is when we read a horrible news story about someone who has been hurt or killed in one, or a heartbreaking story of someone with severe dementia who “escaped” only to freeze to death, alone, in a field somewhere.
And if the initial story isn’t enough to convince you that nursing homes are hell on earth, read the comments. If they aren’t faulting the home for not properly caring for our elderly, they are making sure everyone knows they don’t ever, ever want to live in a place like that. “Note to kids: Leave me on an ice flow – I am not moving into a home”, or “Time for a scotch and a cigar – make it a double – I would rather die than be in a place like that.”.
Double scotch or not – the reality is that 9% of the population will require institutional care of some sort near the end of their lives.
“What the public doesn’t realize is that for some people coming here, this has been the best last few years of their lives.”